Comments on: Who Am I?

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 03:12:36 +0000

Thanks for the comment love! I know it is super hard when you’ve just broken up with someone you thought you might be with forever, but it does all get better. And I reckon just Kim is awesome! I’m excited you’re moving into 361 – I live just down the hill so I’m sure we will see much more of each other.

By: Kahurangi

Kahurangi — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 20:53:12 +0000

I agree with Chickie Little: Do whatever you feel like if it makes you happy!

Although when I broke up with my last boyfriend, I got a tattoo to remind myself of how loving I need to be toward myself, how awesome I am and how much the people around me love me. It helped a lot!

Hope you are doing okay deary xx

By: Tash

Tash — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 19:11:18 +0000

I always cut my hair short when I need a change. Like that’s reclaiming myself…but it somehow works.

But I think this is an internal thing. Yoga helped me when I was feeling down. Still does. Oh, and fried foods. :D

By: Lynda

Lynda — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 02:34:22 +0000

Thinking of you and wishing you well!

By: sarah hannah

sarah hannah — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 05:42:35 +0000

you need to learn how to enjoy being with yourself. what makes you happy and do only those things.

there are positives about being single. it is really the only time you can be 100% selfish. if you hate the gym, don’t go!! fuck it. life is too short to be doing things you dont enjoy.

you dont need to make any drastic life changes, changes will come with time. you just need to let it happen.

By: AsylumDolly

AsylumDolly — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 12:15:02 +0000

I agree with katie- you don’t need to do anything drastic- just do things that make you feel good, whether that be getting an awesome new haircut, or just hangin’ with friends.
I know it feels kinda surreal being single again after being half of a couple for so long…I’m dealing with a similar thing. But you’ll ease into the new lifestyle, and before you know it you’ll be MORE confident than ever, because you’ll finally have reclaimed your true identity. I say that because whenever I’m single,I tend to feel more confident. Maybe it’s because there is nobody to impress, or “keep”, or maybe I’m yet to meet the right guy. Who knows? I just now that it’s a great opportunity to get back in touch with the real YOU. (not that i don’t think you were the “real you” before! I just mean you’re free from certain restraints that can sometimes come with being in a relationship, y’know?)

By: P41G3

P41G3 — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 15:07:38 +0000

OK, so everything is pretty much upside down and it all kinda sucks, but getting time and space to really figure out who *you* are, what makes you happy, and where you want to be in life… it really can be the most liberating and exhilarating feeling. Surround yourself with good friends, good food, & keep busy. (gym not necessary) More power to ya!

didn’t mean to sound preachy there. I’m excited to see what direction life takes you (more tattoos? ever expanding collection of laser jewelry?)

By: Chickie Little

Chickie Little — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 08:23:29 +0000

Do whatever you feel like if it makes you happy!

By: Megan

Megan — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 00:35:14 +0000

The break up haircut is a tradition for a reason. :)

Whatever you do (and you can come to the gym with me, if you want, that’d get me there) remember that you don’t have to decide all this NOW.

Kim will still be there, in a week, a month, a year, whenever. Instead of feeling like you have to reinvent yourself immediately, maybe just focus on being. On being OK. On being ‘in the moment’ or something that sounds somewhat less hippy-ish.

And one day, you’ll wake up, and realise, ‘oh, ok. that’s who I am now. And I am OK with that.’

Now. If only I could take my own advice. ;)

By: Katie

Katie — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 00:14:31 +0000

You don’t need to make drastic life changes darlin’!

I know it must feel like starting all over but it isn’t it’s just a different direction.. It will take time but you’ll be fine it’s very character building. Without even trying you’ll end up a new Kim at the end of all the heart break :-)

Take care of yourself xoxox